Romance
20 Conversation Topics for Couples - Talking to your Partner
When two people start falling in
love, they feel that it would never be possible to run out of things to
say to each other. But sooner or later, a time comes when even the most
devoted of couples may begin to wonder what else to talk about. Which
is a pity really, since conversations are one of the most natural ways
to know more about each other. So if you are raring to discover more
about the new person in your life or simply need to break the monotony
of years of marriage, here are a few conversation topics to get you
started.
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1. Go back to the early days of
your relationship and rediscover what drew you to each other. If you
were the one to ask your partner to a date, ask your girlfriend or wife
what made her say yes. Or if you were the one to agree to the date, ask
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3. Hobbies are one of the most
dependable topics of conversation, no matter how long you have known
each other. If you are new to the relationship, discuss hobbies that
your partner loved as a child. On the other hand, if you have been
married for several years, explore the possibility of doing something
new with each other – like going for a hike on Saturdays or taking a
salsa class for couples every Wednesday night. Pursuing mutual interests
may help you to come closer to each other while doing something fun at
the same time.
4. Vacations
comprise one of the most remembered memories among humans. Ask your
partner what was the best vacation he/she took before meeting you and
why it was fun. You may be surprised to know that some of the most
enjoyable vacations may have been weekend trips and not necessarily
spent at exotic destinations. Moreover the conversation might offer you
valuable pointers on what your partner likes doing best on holidays.
5.
If you are taking a walk at the park, discuss the possibility of having
pets someday and if you may, what would you choose to keep. Again if
you are already the proud owners of a Labrador or an African parrot, you
may think aloud on how having a pet has made a difference to your
lives. The topic might seem mundane but it really sounds out issues of
home, commitment and role of family in your lives.
6.
Ask about your partner’s day after he/she returns home from work. They
may be too tired to say much but the very fact that there is somebody to
ask after them may speak volumes of your love and support.
7.
Discussions on future make very interesting conversations, though you
may need to tread lightly on touchy issues like kids or finances. Rather
ask your partner to name five new things he/she would like to learn
before turning forty/fifty/sixty and so on.
8.
If you share common culinary passions, you are unlikely to ever run out
of delicious things to say to each other. Discuss a new recipe that you
may have come across a magazine or vow to try out the new
Lebanese-themed restaurant in town on your next date.
9.
Pore over old albums with your partner and you are certain to have a
lot to talk about. Pick up clues from your partner’s attitude on what
photos bring back happy memories and then ask him/her to tell you more
about the time it was taken.
10.
Choose one aspect of your partner’s physical make-up and compliment
him/her on it. If you love the way dimples form on her cheeks when she
laughs, say so. Or if your find the small arch of his lower back
insanely attractive, tell him that. Your partner will not only be
pleased with your words but the conversation could veer to what else you
love about each other – something of which no couple can ever have
enough.
11. Inject some fun into
your conversations by having him/her tell you about the yuckiest thing
they ever had to do. It may be something from their high school
chemistry class or the first time they got completely sozzled with
friends.
12. Invite your partner
to talk about his or her family. Most people will fondly remember an
autumn fishing trip with dad or counting starts on a late summer evening
with mom. However if you know that your partner had an unhappy
childhood, steer clear of this topic.
13.
Ask your partner about the best teacher he/she had and why. It could be
because the teacher could make the subject come alive like no one ever
did or because the teacher taught the most important life lessons your
partner ever came across.
14.
Spice things up between you two by discussing an erotic fantasy or a
crazy thought. However remember to keep it light and fun and don’t bring
an element of stress by expecting the other person to act anything out.
15.
Sharing pleasant memories about childhood can also make great
conversation between couples. Tell your partner about the first time you
spent a night away from home and whether it was a sleepover at a
friend’s place or a school trip.
16.
If the two of you could just drop whatever you are doing and do
something fun, ask your partner what would it be. This would be an
interesting way of knowing what your partner enjoys doing most,
especially in your company.
17.
Life goals and values evolve over time and something or someone which
you thought your partner considered important may not be so any more. So
ask your partner if there was one historical event that he/she could
change, what it would be. If this is not the first time you are asking
this question, you may be surprised by a different answer compared to
the last time.
18. Talk about what you need to do more to make your partner feel loved and valued.
19.
If you are sharing a home, discuss what material things are important
to each of you. Prioritizing future purchases, especially expensive
ones, might not seem a very romantic topic of conversation between
couples but its lack can create problems in a relationship. So tackle
these issues when there is still time.
20.
If you want to know more about the values and ideals your partner holds
high, ask about the kind of causes he/she would like to support and
why.
21. Finally, don’t forget to
tell your partner how much he/she means to you and about all the ways
their love and mere presence has enriched your life.
Get away to a romantic destination, to spend time with each other, even if only a day's drive away.
Every relationship needs time
away from the madding crowd. For those married, routines take over your
life. You have to balance household chores with office work and if there
are kids, you have to accommodate their schedules too. Even if you do
manage to make time for each other, you’re often so tired and wound up,
all you can do is either complain or talk about some mundane matter,
turn out the lights and hit the sack. Those dating may be luckier as
they don’t get so sucked into the routine, but they too need to make
time from snatched dates that are often too short.
What every couple needs is some
time away. To get away to a romantic destination, where your only
priority is spending time with each other. It could be for a month,
week, weekend or even just a day. The important thing is that you have
to make time to do it at least once every few months.
Here are a few destination
suggestions for snatching some private moments together. Based on the
time you have available and your budget, find out the option most
suitable to you. You could treat yourselves to something fancy or just
focus on the quality of the time together. The location is secondary.